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The Breakthrough

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Since posting Losing a Child on May 28, I’ve reflected how my life has changed over past eleven years since my son’s passing.  I’ve met some people who have shared their survival stories with me.  I wanted to post two more passages from my journal hoping this will continue to encourage you along your journey.


I’m a Survivor

I’m a survivor, but not like the song on the radio or the TV show.

I’m a survivor of far more unthinkable terms that only another survivor can understand.  Sometimes it doesn’t feel quite like surviving when all I want to do is stay in bed and cry for the loss of my son.

There are days when I see a reflection of my old self, enjoying how life used to be.  Then reality sets in and I remember that my life is not who I used to be.  Integrating a past life with the new one is hard at times.  You don’t quite know where everything fits.

One thing I do know is I have a child in Heaven.  I didn’t choose to join that club but what a great feeling to know he’s above.  With God’s grace, I will see Trey again.  And to do that I Must Be A SURVIVOR!


This passage was trans-formative for me.  I went on to write the next passage.  This is when I knew I would be ok.  That I could live life again!  I had found my new normal.


Thank You!

With all things give thanks to the Lord.  That’s one of the hardest things to do.  Give thanks to a Lord that spared my life but took my young son.  But I have another son who is alive and healthy.  Thank you, Lord.  And I have life.  Thank you again.  I have family and friends.  Thank you for your blessings.  I have a job that you allowed me to get and keep.  Thank You!  The more I go on the more thanks I have for the Lord.  Even with the loss of my son.  I must give thanks because it was Jesus who comforted me.  It was Jesus who picked me up when I didn’t want to go on.  And it’s Jesus now calling me to accept Him completely in my life.  And all I can say is thank you Lord!


Eleven years later, I can still say thank you Lord.  I’ve weathered a storm that I thought I wouldn’t survive.  And you can too trust in God that He will provide you with all that you need to survive your loss and grief.  Strive to find your new normal and live again.

I also challenge you to really look at your life.  List out your blessings, I’m sure they are too numerous to list.  Hopefully, your list will inspire you to live and love like never before!


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I love your perspective, Shelanda. So glad that we have One who comforts our hearts and gives us hope.


That was beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing. It can be so easy to overlook our blessings instead of counting them. Thanks again for the reminder!


I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your story. I admire your courage!


I’m so sorry for your loss of your son. I’m not sure how the Lord does it, but somehow he pulls us out of the darkness and back into light. While my situation was a lot different I feel your heartbreak, although I couldn’t imagine what you’ve gone through. I pray the Lord will continue to bless you and your family.


I can’t even imagine how difficult that would be, and you are so right- our blessings are much too numerous to list out, it’s good be reminded of that as often as possible.


I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience and insight.


No greater thing than to count one’s blessings and be grateful to our maker, no matter the situation we find ourselves.


Hugs to you and I am glad you are healing. Grief is so individual and everyone holds that differently.


I am so sorry for your loss. This post is very inspiring and is a great reminder to truly be grateful for what we do have


You demonstrate such strength!


You are an inspiration. I’m so glad you have been able to find joy in the wake of such loss.


Thank you for sharing your story ❤️


You are so very strong. I cannot imagine ever having to go through this, but sharing your story with the world will serve to support others who need to hear your perspective.


So powerful. 11 years and still surviving. It puts into perspective how life can never be the same after something like this. ❤️


Thank you for sharing


You are a very strong woman. I couldn’t imagine how difficult this must be for you. God bless yoiur heart


so good, and so heartbreaking, its unthinkable situation to go through, im sorry for your loss, and im grateful that you know Jesus, without Him, i dont know if i could survive such a loss. much love to you.


I am so very sorry for your loss. But thank you for being willing to share your story and your hope in the Lord so as to encourage others. It’s the only way to get through an unthinkable tragedy such as this!


I’m so so sorry for your loss! Thankful you are leaning on Jesus and trusting Him with your life. He is the only one that can give true peace and comfort.


Sending prayers for continued strength and virtual hugs!